How Passive Aggression Is Difficult to Recognise And Even More Difficult To Manage. 

The Four Key Behaviours: "Passive Aggressive"

At its most obvious, aggression is a bullet fired at flesh, a knee pushed into a neck, or a mob storming some place.  


In law, aggression is criminal, domestic violence, sexual abuse, alcohol-fuelled. On the battlefield, it is state-sanctioned. Often aggression is understood by the adjectives appended to it: for some, it can be necessary or proportional, while for others, it is senseless, mostly brutal, never justified.

But passive aggression can be found embedded within the "slowly unfolding situations with the work environment” in lack of involvement, lack of recognition, minimal progress, frequent roadblocks. But it can also describe many kinds of harm that affect individuals and communities at a pace too slow to assign blame.  It originates from people with authority and others associated with them.

Passive aggressive behaviour occurs when individuals or groups cause harm to others, often invisibly, through adherence to rules, racism, sexism or another systemic means. The victims are unable to identify exactly from where the cause of the lack of progress originates, and suffer both bodily and psychologically.  But while the impact is tangible, the blame is harder to pin down.

Passive aggression might be too incremental to make headlines or provoke outrage, but it is not hidden to everyone, it is "spectacle deficient" and "un-cinematic", which is true. But unseen? It depends on who is looking.  If you look at the experience lived by people who are exposed to passive aggression, they can notice the incremental changes that are happening to their lives, the situations in everyday life. While it happens over time, those who have lived through it can describe it well enough. So, while passive aggression may not be obvious, and it might be difficult to record, punish or litigate – what matters is that it is always felt.

Here is the link to the BBC article from where the ideas were taken:

We will share more about the other three key behaviours in our next article. Stay tuned!

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